YoungHeart1980!

I hope everyone is doing okay. I came back to work for this organization again (round 2). I heard a couple former co-workers I met at other work places are now working here. Naturally you see former co-workers, but these two were not only co-workers they were my friends as well. I knew them on the personal level.

Former friend #1 doesn’t know I’m working here again and it’s okay, both of us don’t care and left it as is. I tried to help her get a job here years ago and she got the offer. She called me for help because the job she had was apparently awful, just to decline the job offer here with me. She only declined it with no explanation so she stopped being my friend. The job would’ve given her freedom and flexibility. She made me look bad after the recommendation and effort to get her an offer, end of that.

Former friend #2, knew for a long time, know her secrets, kept in touch for years on a personal level. Then all of a sudden she ghosted me. I can’t imagine what I could’ve done for her to end what I thought was a friendship. I thought long and hard for months thinking why her silence? The way I found out about friend #2 working here I had lunch with a former co-worker that I got to see again after four years of not having seen her. She was a delight and still is. So, I am told during this lunch that friend #2 was recently hired. I was happy to hear her name because we didn’t leave off on bad terms. I sent her a couple zoom messages and it took her one day to get back to me. Friend #2 was vague and dry. I wished her well and I didn’t bother her again. On August 20th I saw her again at a training session, gave me a hug and left it at that. I was very confused. After the training session friend #2 called me over again to introduce me to someone and said the following, “I met ET at another job, and she showed me how to coupon when me and my daughter were alone, and I was making $32K. I also went to ET’s baby shower.” I couldn’t believe the fake she turned out to be.

I understood now that I was no longer useful to her. She only mentioned to go to lunch and I put it back on her because I knew she was only bumping her gums. I go to the cafe today to get a chai tea and I hadn’t seen her sitting with another person until I complete my order and go around the counter. I walked over to say hi because I felt I had no other choice. I could tell she was uncomfortable and that made two of us. Friend #2 introduced me to the person having lunch with her and he and I chatted. It turns out he knew of me already. Her eyes were wide open as I talked to him. He and I coincided on a couple topics and left it at that. I wished them well and walked away.

Whatever friend #2 had to say about me I have yet to find out, but I don’t care either, really doesn’t matter or bother me. I am not interested in having lunch with her. This morning I had a premonition. Once I had this encounter today this eary feeling left me.

Back in 2015 when I met friend #2, she used me. I trained her, showed her the ropes, answered questions, and helped her out when she needed me the most. As soon as she got ahead, dropped me like I never existed. I’m still keeping her secrets. At least I got my answer. All the Best!