YoungHeart1980!

Hello, I hope everyone is doing okay.

I’m writing this entry a bit late. I haven’t had time to blog in the last few days, but I’m glad I am here now. From last week, I want to reflect on the boss writing about getting to know others on a personal level and at the same time I had interaction with my co-worker who shared and was hurt by the actions of others when sharing personal information. It was brought up twice last week, so I thought to write about it.

My co-worker made a decision to not share anything personal with anyone at work. I do share her sentiment which I did not share anything personal for many years because I thought I was sharing with one person when in reality my personal stories were being shared over and over again. The stories changed so many times through the grape vine and it is hurtful that you thought the person you knew is really not who you thought and turns out never liked you at work. I had to let go of so many people. I stopped sharing or share the minimum now.

It gave me a lot to think about because the boss believes that while it doesn’t require to know anyone outside the professional, now it might be of significance and to consider of changing that perspective. While working with someone for a long period of time their personal journey reflected who they are and successful because of it. While the mentoring and support on the personal level wasn’t available, he feels an opportunity was missed to offer the support to the person at work if he would’ve taken the time to get to know the person on a personal level being on the same team. There may be individuals who prefer not to share and keep work and personal separate. It would probably be effective to share in emergency situations.

I continue to limit what I share. I did go through a lot on my own, but if someone ever shares with me including my current co-worker, I’m open and loyal to keep it to myself. Most people I encountered at work turned their heads or brushed off my situation, in return I’d listen and offer my support to them. Something to think about. Really…working in teams and having working relationships is great, you have things in common at work, it makes even better when you become friends. Your thoughts? All the Best!